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AriesAngel
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Posted: Wed Sep 17th, 2008 05:59 pm |
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The right to make your own choices is a precious one. We grow when we have the freedom to decide our own paths and determine what makes us happy. Yet there are those who are inclined to try and control others. They may be driven by insecurity, envy, fear, or the need for power. These people are deeply critical of themselves in their own minds, and underlying that critical nature is unhappiness. Their need to feel sure-footed and secure is quenched by controlling those around them, whether they are friends, colleagues, or even pets. However, nearly everyone has found themselves imposing their will upon others at one time or another.
Trying to impose your will on others can be tempting for many reasons. You may feel that your way is the best way or that you have a keener insight into the direction their life should be taking. But, in imposing your will, you are indirectly saying, "I want to control you." Even when you have the best of intentions, others may end up resenting you for your actions. It is always helpful to remember that it is possible to influence people and change their behavior through education or example without imposing your will on them.
If you’ve caught yourself being a bit bossy on a regular basis, make a note of it. Write down what the situation was and why you acted the way you did. You may have pushed a friend to try something new, because deep inside you wanted to try it yourself but were feeling hesitant. Or you may be unjustly interfering with work teammates, because you aren’t sure of their abilities. Next, make an effort to understand and accept their preferences and ways of doing things. It can feel natural to impose your will when you feel that you "know best." But there is a freedom to trusting others to find their own methods and joys, even when they might differ from yours. Sometimes the best course of action is to step back and relinquish control. You may, in doing so, see everything from a different point of view.
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dana64
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Posted: Wed Sep 17th, 2008 07:54 pm |
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| You are so write sometimes we do not realize that we are trying to tell others to do it our way....Which for us it may be right but for someone else they have to do it differnt and it works for them....And sometimes we can be stubborn and not listen to advice that would help us in the long run..We have to find out on our own...That seems to be when I don't listen to my intuition
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AriesAngel
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Posted: Wed Sep 17th, 2008 08:39 pm |
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Dana,
I agree that everyone has their own way of doing things and what might work for one person does not necessarily work for another.
That is why we all need to find and honor our own path in life. That is what makes us all unique and special.
Julie
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