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MidnightAngel
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Posted: Wed Feb 7th, 2007 04:37 am |
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On Saturday, after only working one week, my boss proceeded to tell me everything that was wrong with me. That I am too slow, have no confidence, can't get things done like she can, (she forgets that she's worked at this place for 13 years.)
We came to a mutual agreement that I would resign. She asked me, after telling me everything that was wrong with me, "Is there anything I could do?"
She had told me that I was good on the computer, earlier that week, so I said I could run the computer. She just looked at me like I had to be kidding.
After all this, she wanted me for a drinking buddy. I went to the bar once with her, and it was my first time in 15 years of being in a bar. I am confident enough to know that I will not be drinking with her, ever.
Anyway, her words of my incompetence in anything and everything made me wonder why I am alive. I really wanted to die, because nothing mattered, especially as I was feeling like a complete failure in everything I've done.
My sister can get any job she wants, stab people in the back and still they love her and would give her anything she asks. Why is life so one sided? People who really don't give a, you know what, get wonderful things in life. Good people just get trampled on and put down. Is it any wonder why there is so much suicide in this world?
To be honest, I've had it.
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soraya
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Posted: Wed Feb 7th, 2007 12:11 pm |
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| Greeting, Midnight Angel, you are never what others say about you you are always yourSelf which i sense to be a beautiful often misunderstood soul, i feel that you are an old soul that has been through the toughest of lessons/challenges, but take heart these others that are affecting you this way are very young souls that have much to learn, stand firm in your truth and integrity, dont allow others to distract you from leaving your personal flow which i feel streams out with beauty. gut blessi thig. soraya
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Lunamyst
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Posted: Wed Feb 7th, 2007 02:02 pm |
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My friend, do not lose your faith in yourself and your abilities. For you have experience and wisdom that has brought you this far in life. Our heavenly father brought you here to accomplish great things. You may or may not realize just how important you are my friend. Just look around you and within you...See all the lives you have touched and all of your accomplishments. Know that your abilities are gained from experience and wisdom that comes from this. Do not let the ignorance of another stop you from accomplishing your goals in life. For where one door may close, another shall open in its place. Know that if you just stand your ground be assert yourself, you shall be victorious in the end. Know that the divine power and wisdom of our heavenly father and his angels are with you always. Call upon their help and they shall assist you in your time of need. Know that my prayers and thoughts are with you my friend. May God and his angels keep you in their care always.
Sincerely,
Lunamyst
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Posted: Wed Feb 7th, 2007 05:42 pm |
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Midnight Angel, you are here on this earth to do what God intended for you to do and that is to be yourself. I believe you know all of this; but it is normal to doubt oneself after being told unkind things about our abilities. It sounds like the boss was not the right fit for you instead of having anything to do with the job. Naturally, I do not know you personally; so I can only offer a "sideliners' viewpoint" from where I am at; but for this boss to take you out for a drink afterwards seems like this person has diffidulties dealing with certain aspects of their responsibilities to the job. Not knowing the companies' policies on hiring/firing, I thought many jobs give a person the opportunity to improve themselves should some aspect of their work be below the "norm" standards for the particular job. You didn't mention if any disability was involved; but if there were, accommodations can be sought for certain positions.
After working six months with one company and having been sick plus surgery had to be done, I was released from my job. I had inquired about being given the chance to resign; but my Vocational Rehab counselor told me to allow them to fire me without making sure that I had enough work credits to entitle me to unemployment benefits. Needless to say, I now have discharge on my work record and though it was said that I was 'wrongfully' discharged, I didn't have enough work credits to receive unemployment. Unfortunately, things like this happen; but it seems to be one of those issues that some of us must go thru.
Take care. Don't give up on life. You are a blessing to others even if you cannot see it at times.
Peace,
Barnowl46
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MidnightAngel
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Posted: Thu Feb 8th, 2007 03:35 am |
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Thank you Soraya, Lunamyst, and Barn Owl47 for caring enough to respond back. All of you have truly helped me. I guess everyone hits rock bottom on occassion and that's what strengthens us. This situation just left me flat and I am so glad that I have this website to come back to.
I E-mailed a lady that I went to training with about this site and she said that it sounded like a great place. This lady also told me that I should complain to someone higher up, like my former bosses boss as she is doing some things that are not by the book, and one or two of these issues were red lettered. (You do not do.) I'm not sure what to do, but maybe I'll let it go for a while and see what happens. If I don't get my paycheck or travel expenses, then I may take it to a higher authority. This was a job as a PMR (Postmaster relief) and when you deal with government, the questionable things she did can get her into serious trouble.
Please continue to say a prayer that I'll chose the right way to handle this, because I really don't know what to do.
Once again, thank you all, and may the Father God of all bless you and protect you.
Sincerely,
Midnight Angel
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Posted: Thu Feb 8th, 2007 03:53 am |
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Hello,
I hear so much anger coming from your words. Please don't be angry at your sister for who she is. She is no better than you, she just is who she is. Just be who you are. You are a wonderful spiritual being. Do not allow anyone else to ever convince you otherwise. Anyone who tries to is not doing God's work, and if it's not God's work then there is no point in it!
Let me ask you something... If you close your eyes and say the the words, "who am I, What kind of career should I be in?" What is your first response? Whatever it is, that is what you were meant to do. Do not let the humanities of life run your spirit into the ground. Take some risk and do what God meant for you to do. Shine your light!
Love and light,
Cricket
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Nurse Angel
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Posted: Thu Feb 15th, 2007 10:03 pm |
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| OUCH!! What a self esteem destroyer your boss was! How can anyone know anyone's ability to work in one week? Did she teach you your job and what she expected you to do in a time limit? I don't think so! I've had 20 yrs of nursing supervision and I know she didn't do her job. In my life I have had many changes/losses I had not planned for. Each loss sent me to a new learning experience that I hope is heping my spirit perfect. In other words after I spiraled down , I eventually saw my losses as better outcomes for me, I quit wanting to die each time and started looking forward to my new challenges. Maybe this was not the right job for you? I cannot imagine a sensitive ,kind person as yourself would ever feel comfortable workng for such a person for long. Better to move on earlier than later( no time wasted?). This is probably not the only negative experience you have ever had? Many times past experiences have a way of accumulating when not resolved in your mind, then they hit you all at once when you are down. Hang in there! Take one day at a time. Pray for help in finding the path a loving kind GOD has planned especially for you. GOD Bless!!Stay in touch NURSE ANGEL
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MidnightAngel
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Posted: Sun Feb 18th, 2007 03:06 am |
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Dear Cricket and Nurse Angel:
Thank you for such kind words. I do feel a lot better than when I posted. It took a while, but when I realized that she made me feel like my ex-husband, worthless, stupid and slow- it helped me to get rid of those feelings. Actually, God revealed that in a round-about way in my dreams. I was back with that man, and wanted out and away.
To be honest, I'm not angry with my sister. We don't talk. In fact, she doesn't even talk with our parents. She told our dad, at his mothers funeral two years ago, that she knew where mom's bad attitude came from. It was from our moms, mom' brother. I guess that would make him an uncle. My dad said, no it wasn't that, it came from her father. My sister didn't have any contact with him until Christmas this year. when she sent dad a gift. She has no contact with mom and it's been that way for over five years, but she did send dad a late Christmas gift.
But as you've said, that is her life and I need to live mine and try to be the best I can be. That is why I like this web site. It helps me to renew my faith and it's nice to know there are good people left in the world who will take time to help someone in need.
I hope you all keep in touch. God Bless and once again Thank you. You saved me in more ways then one.
Sincerely,
Midnight Angel
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Posted: Mon Mar 5th, 2007 02:25 am |
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hello to you , your boss is a hopeless louser,that can't seem to get in controll of her life, this is why she tried to put you down. other's probley have brag about you, and she can't handle that because!!!! she haven't found her strengh in her life, if you belive in your self ? you don't have to listen to an acoholic, who hate her self and is misable with life. you re just the only person that she can get away with talking down too, so just pray for her and rise above other people's put down, somepeople like your boss just don't know how to find the answer's
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Posted: Mon Mar 5th, 2007 03:49 am |
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Dear Sindy:
Thank you so much for taking the time to respond. I never really thought about the possible reasons, but you gave me an insight to something I never considered. I found wisdom in your words and it really helped me tonight. Although I haven't talked to this person since, she wrote me a small note when she sent my paycheck. She wanted all the papers back that she had given me.
Yesterday,(Sat.) when I woke it came to me. God knew what He was doing when all this happened. We were having a bad blizzard and the snow was waist deep. Since Saturday would have been my days to work, (and there would have been no excuse for not showing up) I very happily said, thank you God and rolled over and went back to sleep.
Blessings on you Sindy and may His angels keep you safe and happy.
Sincerely,
Midnight Angel
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Posted: Mon Jan 14th, 2008 07:35 am |
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this is kind of late but i hope you get to read this anyway.
you are beautiful, you are special, you are the best person you can be. do not let anyone, not even your mother (!!!) let you feel otherwise.
be happy, my dear sister! you are blessed!
FayeLast edited on Mon Jan 14th, 2008 07:35 am by Faye
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